I find it amusing, perplexing, and vexing that humans scapegoat their own creations to justify behavior(s) rather than accept responsibility for their behavior(s). Enter the internet and online dating as the root cause of the “dating apocalypse”. The reality is that the “dating apocalypse” is not much different than an…


It’s pretty clear to me people are on edge at the moment. We’re a divided nation out of our own national stupidity. The way to solve this is to be social. And try to do it in as safe as a manor as possible. But when you’re an introvert and…


My friend Niko and I go back to 2004 when worked for the same company and would hang out after work because we lived nearby. …


In mid 2009 my late 20s hit a crescendo when a debt collector started calling me at work. I’d been dodging phone calls from the 859 area code for months and now was the time of reckoning. “I really must do something about this (debt)” problem. I’d been walking around…


The pandemic has forced a lot of us to become more introspective over the last year plus. The last concert I played was opening for a couple of very good bands, in a very nice room on a very nice stage. When you’re used to playing SCG’s (Shitty Club Gigs)…


I work in the audio industry for a microphone manufacturer that still builds the bulk of its products in the United States. It is known for outstanding products you gotta “be in the know” which is why it’s a fairly small company. Microphones are very important, but even though some…


I am continually amazed at how on-edge people are right now. And in some cases with good reason. The pandemic is raging in some places and not others, those places where it does not rage still require a certain amount of vigilance. It all makes sense. …


Whenever I experience a disappointing dating experience I usually search the internet for articles that give me some semblance of solace so I can get up, dust myself off, and move on. I’ve read several articles suggesting that 80% of single women want the “upper 20%” (socioeconomic strata/physical attractiveness, etc.)…


There have no doubt been numerous articles written on this subject that effectively blame women for being women when it comes to dispensing dating advice to men. Things like “women are experts at being women” come to mind. …


When I was a teenager in the mid-late 1990s the way things worked in dating was boy is interested in girl, boy asked girl out and girl said a) yes, or b) no. …

John Tompson

I have lived in Portland, Oregon since 2002. I have a degree in Political Science and Asian Studies along with a minor in Japanese.

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